Timelines

My personality could be described as a planner.  I like to have a plan.  It provides a sense of direction for me.  I can be without a plan but it's my preference.  Timelines seem to go hand in hand with planning.  I often overpack my schedule and do not meet my timelines in my everyday life and sometimes things just happen.


For me it was in my mid thirties ~ I was hit in a way that was unexpected.  I had this deep desire to have children...baby fever...biological clock ticking, whatever one calls it, I had it.  To make things worse I have plenty of people in my life telling me how I should have kids and what a great mom I would be.  Funny enough these words have never been uttered by either of my parents.  My mother had me at a late age (44 turned 45 a month later) and being an only child of older parents I knew two things:  1) I want more than one child 2) I was not going to have children after 39.  A timeline set and fast forward four years or so.....I decided to move the timeline to 40.  Being the planner that I am I had everything planned out and including the baby gap issue.  I would either get pregnant by my 40th birthday or I would have plan b.  Plan b consists of turning 40, having a crisis the next day, enter therapy for a short time (because everyone should go to therapy), pull myself together, apply for sabbatical and travel for one year around the world. Experience places, cultures that I may not be able to if I had little ones. I may do this anyhow.


Here I am 39.  This is the very last year of my thirties.  To make each day my best I have decided to create a list of 39 things I'd like to experience before I'm 40, which is in approximately in 354 days.  I must give credit to Laura's (who is much younger than I and has far surpassed me in ways that I find her inspiring - but that could be another blog) list of "25 while I'm 25".


Like any good planner, the first thing I did was create a list.  At first I was unable to identify 39 things I wanted to do or experience.  How can this be??? I am the ultimate planner...then it was suggested that I mention it on facebook to get some feedback.  I did this with varied results.  However, with the amount time and in some cases funds, some suggestions were just not possible.  Like be in two places at once, find a partner ~ a partner is not something you find or collect it just happens.  I decided to really think about what I wanted to do the next year and what might be possible.  Also to note - this is not a bucket list - I'm turning 40! I'm not dying.    


To give you some insight here is the original list (order is not of importance):

1. Sky dive
2. See a psychic or have my cards read or both
3. Run a marathon
4. Run a half marathon in sub two
5. Organize my office  - no really - organize my office
6. Travel somewhere I have not been
7. See Herman the sturgeon
8. Do a full spa day retreat
9. Ride on a train to anywhere
10. Raise $1000 for breast cancer 
11. Improve my vocabulary and ability to speak Japanese
12. Hike to tunnel falls
13. Stay overnight in the aquarium
14. Learn to knit or crochet a blanket and give it to a shelter
15. Take an art class
16. Attend a timbers game
17. Be an extra in a film or tv show
18. Brew my own beer 
19. Make my own cheese
20. Attend an opera performance
21. Go whale watching in the San Juan Islands
22. Go crabbing
23. Snowmobiling
24. Do a scavenger hunt
25. Buy a pair of shoes equal to one month's pay 
26. Go to a festival that I have never been to  - done Verboort Sausage Fest and I will go back every year
27. Buy a bouquet of flowers every month
28. Go to Portland Japanese Garden (it's been a long time)
29. Go to Lan Su Garden
30. Go to the Oregon Garden
31. Spend from sun up to sun down not talking to anyone
32. Purge - get rid of my wedding dress and items in that large bin I haven't looked in
33. Have one evening or day per week where I take time for myself
34. Wear more dresses/skirts
35. Have Afternoon Tea
36. See Crater Lake
37. Go wine tasting in Applegate Valley
38. Go to the house of Vortex
39. See the sea caves
40. Stay the night in a treehouse
41. Ride one of the top three tallest roller coasters 

• Roller Coaster	Amusement Park	Height
  Kingda Ka	Six Flags Great Adventure Jackson, New Jersey, United States	456 ft
  Top Thrill Dragster	Cedar Point Sandusky, Ohio, United States	420 ft
  Superman: Escape from Krypton	Six Flags Magic Mountain Valencia, California, United States	415 ft

Then it occurred to me that I needed a way to record my experiences and voila here is my blog.  I've never considered myself much of a writer so this may be a great way to challenge myself, as well as have some accountability through this process. 


1.  Create and write a blog of my 39 experiences before I'm 40.  (done -well in progress)


Next I took off the following three items:

• 1. Make my own cheese
   I think at the time it sounded interesting but there are so many amazing cheeses out there, I'd rather just buy some and eat it.
• 1. Buy a pair of shoes equal to one month's pay Ok really?  I couldn't justify spending that much money on a pair of shoes plus I would be looking for deals, in essence not spending what I had stated I would. I had to cut it from the list.
• 1. Verboort Sausage Fest and I will go back every year  Even though this happened after my birthday it was before I came up with this idea.  By the way the sausage and kraut are amazing and I highly recommend it.  It's fun to hang out around the barrels of fire on the gun range which is the beer garden.  I have to warn you the beer and wine selection offered is Bud/Bud light and some box wine.  Ugh box wine.

Some of my timelines have shifted and I've created some new timelines.  I'm excited for the process and want to make each day my best.